Is It Wrong To Ask For Help?
Andrea Ramsay Speers
We live in a culture that values independence. There’s a common belief that everyone can and should take care of themselves alone, pull themselves up by their bootstraps and [...]
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Most Of Us Hear, Not All Of Us Listen
Andrea Ramsay Speers
I use a lot of skills in my work as a psychotherapist in Oakville. Some of these skills are ones that I teach my clients, too, and active listening is probably one of the [...]
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A Listening Experiment
Andrea Ramsay Speers
Have you ever given much thought to how much talking you do? I try to be very aware of how much I talk — occupational hazard, I suppose — and I try to [...]
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When Parents Clash
Andrea Ramsay Speers
What do you do when you and your partner have differences in parenting styles? It’s a surprisingly common dilemma. My experience is that, if we look at parenting as a [...]
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How To Keep Your Marriage Strong
Andrea Ramsay Speers
It’s not uncommon that I meet with couples who have come to counselling, but are a little unsure if they should even be there, since they don’t fight, they don’t storm out on [...]
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Happiness At Home: Resolving Conflicts
Andrea Ramsay Speers
Every relationship has conflicts. In some relationships, conflict is a serious problem; in others, differences seem to be resolved without creating a major incident. Think [...]
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Improving Your Sex Life
Andrea Ramsay Speers
Men and women tend to think about sex differently. This may seem laughably obvious, but in my work providing couple counselling, I often see clients in which the spouses [...]
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Ex Marks the Spot
Andrea Ramsay Speers
The reality is, a lot of us will have to deal with an ex of our own. When we share children with this ex, things can get pretty dicey. It is critical as a parent that you [...]
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A Shift in Family Schedules
Andrea Ramsay Speers
How do you make your family calendar “work”? We have a bit of an unusual arrangement in our house in that my husband works evenings and weekends, so we’ve [...]
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Men At Work
Andrea Ramsay Speers
A lot of ink has been devoted to the work/life balance for moms, but are dads feeling the crunch too? I think they might be. While programs such as paternity leave have [...]
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