“Fighting Fair”?
Andrea Ramsay Speers
All couples disagree at some point. It’s not realistic to think that we’ll see eye-to-eye on everything over the course of a long marriage. Disagreeing isn’t the issue; how [...]
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Is It Wrong To Ask For Help?
Andrea Ramsay Speers
We live in a culture that values independence. There’s a common belief that everyone can and should take care of themselves alone, pull themselves up by their bootstraps and [...]
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Most Of Us Hear, Not All Of Us Listen
Andrea Ramsay Speers
I use a lot of skills in my work as a psychotherapist in Oakville. Some of these skills are ones that I teach my clients, too, and active listening is probably one of the [...]
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Being More Patient
Andrea Ramsay Speers
Most parents I’ve met would say that parenting has taught them to dig into reserves of patience they didn’t even know they had. But they’d also probably admit that they could [...]
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Foiling a Manipulation Tactic
Andrea Ramsay Speers
Kids develop a finely tuned awareness of which parent to go to in specific circumstances. Whether they’re looking for money, a ride to the mall, or permission to sleep [...]
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A Listening Experiment
Andrea Ramsay Speers
Have you ever given much thought to how much talking you do? I try to be very aware of how much I talk — occupational hazard, I suppose — and I try to [...]
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How To Keep Your Marriage Strong
Andrea Ramsay Speers
It’s not uncommon that I meet with couples who have come to counselling, but are a little unsure if they should even be there, since they don’t fight, they don’t storm out on [...]
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Happiness At Home: Resolving Conflicts
Andrea Ramsay Speers
Every relationship has conflicts. In some relationships, conflict is a serious problem; in others, differences seem to be resolved without creating a major incident. Think [...]
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Holiday Drama
Andrea Ramsay Speers
With Easter around the corner, many families are planning get-togethers with extended family. And while this may be a pleasurable expectation for some people, it can hold a [...]
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Improving Your Sex Life
Andrea Ramsay Speers
Men and women tend to think about sex differently. This may seem laughably obvious, but in my work providing couple counselling, I often see clients in which the spouses [...]
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