“Fighting Fair”?
Andrea Ramsay Speers
All couples disagree at some point. It’s not realistic to think that we’ll see eye-to-eye on everything over the course of a long marriage. Disagreeing isn’t the issue; how [...]
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Interruption Disruption
Andrea Ramsay Speers
I’m of the belief that one of the hardest parts of parenting is the constant interruptions. It could be interruptions while you’re talking, or just the idea that a parent’s [...]
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A String on the Finger
Andrea Ramsay Speers
One of the things that never fails to set parents off is when kids are chronically forgetful. And it can be a long haul to get kids to accept the responsibility of [...]
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What’s Your Style?
Andrea Ramsay Speers
Dr. Michael Popkin is a parenting expert who also uses the Adlerian “Democratic Parenting” model in his work. He has a quiz on his web site called What’s [...]
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Most Of Us Hear, Not All Of Us Listen
Andrea Ramsay Speers
I use a lot of skills in my work as a psychotherapist in Oakville. Some of these skills are ones that I teach my clients, too, and active listening is probably one of the [...]
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Money, Money, Money
Andrea Ramsay Speers
“Mom, can I have an ice cream?” That’s how it starts. With a seemingly innocent request for a treat – that requires money. This is your first opportunity to share with your [...]
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Discipline Vs. Punishment
Andrea Ramsay Speers
I found a great explanation of the distinction, taken from Kathy Lynn’s book Who’s In Charge Anyway?: Discipline is not about pain or punishment, nor about revenge [...]
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Being More Patient
Andrea Ramsay Speers
Most parents I’ve met would say that parenting has taught them to dig into reserves of patience they didn’t even know they had. But they’d also probably admit that they could [...]
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Foiling a Manipulation Tactic
Andrea Ramsay Speers
Kids develop a finely tuned awareness of which parent to go to in specific circumstances. Whether they’re looking for money, a ride to the mall, or permission to sleep [...]
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Saying What We Mean and Meaning What We Say
Andrea Ramsay Speers
Here’s an interesting statistic: Today’s Parent magazine took an online poll, in which 58% of parents responded that they sometimes say yes when they wish [...]
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