Happiness At Home: What Causes All Of This Stress?
In this newsletter, we will explore what stress is and what causes it. In the next, you will learn how to manage the stress in your life and protect yourself against it.
Stress Is a Response
Most experts define stress as a response to life situations like the following:
- Having too many responsibilities
- Vague or confusing expectations
- Having to do unpleasant tasks
- Facing too many distractions
- Having to do tasks for which one is unprepared
- Working with difficult people
- Being bored
- Being sick
- Experiencing too many changes
- Being in physical danger
- Living or working in a crowded space
- Not getting enough exercise
- Poor nutrition
- Not getting enough sleep
- Not enough time to relax
- Being dissatisfied with your physical appearance
- Abusing drugs or alcohol, or being close to someone who abuses them
Social and Cultural Causes of Stress
Stress has become a factor in our culture in the last 20 years because of things that were originally designed to make life less stressful. Conveniences such as cell phones, online grocery shopping, and social media have made life easier in many ways, but they also have woven an expectation of instant gratification into our culture. And this causes stress.
Here are a few other examples of products and services that were invented to make life more efficient and productive, but which sometimes seem instead to add to stress:
- 24-hour stores and restaurants
- Drive-thru fast food
- 24-hour gyms
- Web sites, with their instant access to unlimited information and varied opinions
- Internet shopping
- Personal computers and Smartphones
- E-mail and text messaging
- 24/7 news access
Stress at Work
Almost everyone complains of stress at work these days. It often results from one or more of the following:
- Having too much or too little work to do
- Having to do work that is very complicated and demanding
- Having to do work that is boring and repetitive
- Having unclear goals and expectations
- Having to follow changing or confusing procedures
- Being at a career dead end
- Working in a company with an impersonal management philosophy
Who Work Stress Affects Most
Stress affects people in every type of work setting.
People at the top of organizations suffer from stress because of excessive workloads, unrealistic expectations, and isolation. The phrase “it’s lonely at the top” has some truth to it.
Middle managers often experience stress because they have responsibility for the people who report to them, but lack the control to execute what is expected. With the recent epidemic of corporate downsizing, middle managers have also been given greater and greater workloads. Managers who manage to keep their jobs often feel like they are living in the shadow of termination.
Professionals suffer from their own brand of stress caused by monotony. Doctors, lawyers, and other professionals often perform the same kind of work for many years, resulting in boredom and desperation.
Workers at the lower levels of today’s organizations often feel stress caused by boredom and the frustration of dealing with the public. They also may feel less successful than their coworkers in higher-level jobs and may feel stressed by their lack of status.
Why Workplace Stress Has Increased
- The nature of work has changed. The fight-or-flight responses to stress are ineffective in response to the stresses of today’s life.
- The workplace has become decentralized. In many places, people no longer work together in one place, but may be scattered around the world or work from home, connected by technology.
- People change with each generation. Baby Boomers differ from Generation Xers in terms of their values, work ethic, and their definitions of success, and in turn, they are different than Millennials and from Generation Zers. These generational differences contribute to stress at work.
How Stress Affects Women
Both genders experience stress. It affects women in some unique ways, however. Here are a few of them:
- Overall, women are still paid less than men for the same work.
- Women still face a glass ceiling as they climb the corporate ladder. As of the 2018 Fortunelist, only 24 women (4.8%) were CEOs of Fortune 500 companies.
- Women who choose to have children are usually responsible for the logistics of child care.
- Women with children often do more housework when they get home than their husbands do.
- Compared with men, women with children also tend to experience more guilt feelings about leaving their children to go to work.
In the next newsletter, we will explore ways you can manage stress and keep it from detracting from the quality of your life.
Harry Barry, Toxic Stress: A Step-By-Step Guide to Managing Stress. 2018.
Barb Schmidt, The Practice: Simple Tools For Managing Stress, Finding Inner Peace, and Uncovering Happiness. 2014.
Dr. Rangan Chatterjee, The Four Pillar Plan: How To Relax, Eat, Move and Sleep Your Way to a Longer, Healthier Life. 2017.