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Goals of Misbehaviour Part 4: Inadequacy
This month wraps up our four month series of trying to answer that nagging question, “Why do kids do that?” Having looked at the “goals” of gaining attention, power, [...]
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Encourage To Flourish
Encouragement Vs Praise What’s the difference? you may be asking yourself. It’s subtle, to be sure, and most of us never really gave it much thought. In a nutshell, [...]
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Goals Of Misbehaviour Part 3: Revenge
The good news is that we are well on our way to understanding what is driving our kids’ behaviour. We’ve talked about the first two goals of misbehaviour, getting [...]
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Happiness At Home: Parenting Your Teen With Less Stress
How to Maintain Communication Even though teens need to separate from their parents during adolescence, they also need to know that the safety net of home and family is always [...]
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Bathroom Technique
Time outs are nothing new to parents. There are many, many parenting approaches that advocate using them with your children. But what about parents? Don’t we sometimes need [...]
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A Yelling Resolution
I was reading a little poll in an old Today’s Parent magazine. Even though it was from the December 2009 issue, I thought it would be interesting to post the poll and the [...]
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05Feb
Goals Of Misbehaviour Part 2: Power
Last month we began our quest to answer the question, “What are they thinking?!?” (“they”, of course, being our children). Recognizing that no behaviour happens by accident [...]
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30Jan
What Are You Tolerating?
We all have things that we tolerate in our lives. Some of them are big things (like a nasty neighbour), but many of them are small things (a messy desk is an example), and we [...]
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Goals Of Misbehaviour Part I: Attention
Have you ever looked at your kids and thought, “What are they thinking?!?” It’s a common parental response to outrageous, wacky, disruptive, or hurtful behaviours. But there [...]
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The Importance Of Failing
It’s tempting for a parent to want to spare one’s kids the pain of failure. No one likes to see someone that they care about – and that they’ve been charged with protecting – [...]
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